Reality vs. Fantasy

Hello! I have not abandoned you all. I am still recovering from a two week illness that sent me to urgent care. And I don't go that far unless I am really sick. I honestly haven't been this sick in years. It just sucked. I had to do my normal daily routines while feeling like I was going to keel over any moment. I am ready to feel better and move on.

With that said, I just wanted to get better. I didn't eat horribly but I ate whatever whenever in order to fuel my body and make me not sick when I took medicine. No exercise. At all. And I am okay with that. Anyway, I am out of the funk, ready to move on and get back on the track I was on 3 friggin' weeks ago.

I have this vision of me, being smaller, NOT SKINNY, but smaller than I am now, and confident. The joy I feel anticipating that place overcomes everything else. And you know what?? For my body, it will still be technically 'overweight.' And you know what else? I don't give a damn what anyone else says, I will look hot, feel amazing and be healthy. I can see myself there, and that is the most important part, because it isn't something so far out of reach that it is more of a fantasy than reality. And I think that's the problem. Are you visualizing a fantasy or a reality? Going back to a previous post, aiming for this super sleek skinny sexy 20-something is NOT REALISTIC. Sure, there are people who shrink all their problem spots with non-stop work outs, but for the every day woman, it is not realistic to put up pictures of these tight, tanned women and expect the same.Then we beat ourselves up for no getting there!

So this is the deal. Make a weight loss and/or inches-lost goal and that is all you need!! Set that goal, don't beat yourself up for being the same size of  'so and so' and you have stretch marks and excess skin... That is not the point of learning to love who you are. That is not the point of being a fit woman in the real world.

So my challenge is this. Picture yourself at a higher goal weight, it may not be the final goal, but a second or third goal weight, and picture it with some excess skin and stretchmarks, etc. Does that disgust you? Are you just happy to be there, regardless of how you look naked? Or are you ashamed, thinking you need to look like what the fitness ads or magazines tell you?

YOU have to define where YOU want to be. Only you, no one else. And I guarantee, your goal will seem that much easier. Being sexy is all about how you feel about where you are, and the people that matter will see that in you, not the imperfections others dwell on.

This is about YOU. No one else. Remind yourself of that as often as you can.