Dealing with stereotypes, Hollywood's portrayal and general nastiness directed towards fat women.

I know people love this girl, Fat Amy, from Pitch Perfect. I haven't seen the movie and while I am sure she is hysterical, this portrayal of large women in movies and tv just feeds society's beliefs about how we all are. Lazy, asexualized, super funny fatties who love food and hate exercise. Even Melissa McCarthy, who I think is a genius, is put in roles that are just ridiculous and silly.

I remember watching Bridget Jones as a young 20-something and just being blown away. Granted, she wasn't 'fat' by any means but she was not skinny, and she portrayed the awkwardness perfectly. And I was like, this is funny because this IS what we go through. This is how we struggle when it comes to men and life. And I loved it!

And all Hollywood did was say 'What did Renee Zellwegger do to gain that weight and how did she take it off??' and it's like, who the fuck cares?? And now she looks WEIRD!! Too skinny, in my opinion.

Anyway, there have been sitcoms that tried to center around bigger women and they always failed. The reality is is that we as a society have been brought up to believe that larger women are unattractive. Holy shit, really?? I mean, Queen Latifah, Adele, or even Jessica Simpson who never apologized for being bigger even though the media ripped her.

I just don't understand why fat= ugly and disgusting. This part of the reason why we beat ourselves up. So this is basiclly all I have to say about it...

 

 

So, reiterating a previous point, YOUR FAT DOES NOT DEFINE YOU. The people who matter will know that you are a good person, that weight is a part of your struggle but that it is not who you are.

 

It is important that you have yourself surrounded by people who support you. I have a former friend who I had known for 15 years and had been there through a lot of my early stages of weight struggles and she said recently that fat people disgusted her. Well... I guess there is no need to explain why we are no longer friends. You HAVE to get rid of the toxic people or at least distance yourself from them. Because this journey is about you and learning to love yourself. NOT about how others see you.

 

No matter what you see or hear, there is nothing you see that actually reflects you. Don't desire to be that chick on tv, just desire to be a better you. That is all you need.