It has been a while. I apologize. The Spring has always been a difficult time for me and this year was no different. But I am better now and needing to get back to the land of the living.
I have a lot of things going through my head and have thought hard about what I wanted to discuss with you after my hiatus. I decided to go with the topic of trainers and fitness experts and their views on fat folks, especially women.
I am a big girl and I always try to be mindful about what I eat. My main downfall since becoming a mom is working out, in all honesty. I just have never, even when I was 'smaller,' been an active person. It is my biggest challenge, by far. I see that, I admit it. I have looked at some local personal trainers that are women who have been where I am and lost weight and I am intrigued. Not because I think they'll be easy on me, I don't want that, but because they've been there.
It is absolutely ridiculous to me that a smaller, active person has the gall to judge larger people. If you haven't been in their shoes, who are you to judge?? If you are a trainer, the biggest tool you have is COMPASSION and DRIVE. It is not "you are a fat ass and I am not and I want to make you look like me." It is about showing this fat person, who has NEVER had ANYONE give them a chance, have someone give them a chance and give them hope. And in the fitness world I see these 'trainers' demean their clients and that will get them nowhere.
As the title of my blog states, fat girls are people, too. We don't sit around eating complete shit all day and do nothing. We have very busy lives and for those of us who are moms, our focus is always the kids. So where do we go from here? Personal trainers are expensive. Eating healthy, organic, blah blah blah, is expensive. As a trainer, your job is to work around all of that. Get to know your client. Don't think of them as a fat person. Think of them as a human being who needs help. POSITIVE help. The kind of help that INSPIRES and makes them want to be better for THEM. Don't make comments about seeing the fat chick eating a cheeseburger and how gross it is. Find out why she is fat and why she wants that cheeseburger and learn the importance of compassion with the people you train. It. Is. Not. Hard. If you're a trainer and you've never been fat? Fine. But as someone seeking that service, I expect you to see my situation and my life as NOT YOURS and my story is MY OWN and I got here through various situations that you may not understand. Ya know? It is just obnoxious to me that there are FITNESS PROFESSIONALS out there who have a discriminatory view toward their clients!!
So. My message? Girls (or boys), don't be afraid to seek out a personal trainer if you can. But make sure they are doing this for YOU. Not their own agenda of demeaning and shaming you into losing weight. Fitness professionals? Don't be a dick. People don't like dicks. Fat people don't want to be trained by dicks. That is all.
